On Being Authentically Happy.

So… after a very challenging  week last week, and more contemplation on just what it takes to remain in a positive state of mind and be: #NthabiHappy , I have found that it takes effort and a soul- searching and it helps to also be aware of your state of being and how you can…

Birthdays, Smiles, Joys & Even Some Sorrow. #50DaystoFifty

This past weekend was possibly the longest I’ve ever had. I lost my father in law. We didn’t expect it , and there was a wall of grief around us as I determined to enjoy my birthday weekend. Two days later I turned 50. Some may say when grief impacts a weekend that’s supposed to…

Pursuing Happiness in Challenging Times

So today, I wrote this as my  Facebook post: “Happiness is not necessarily just a feeling. It’s a disposition, a state of mind, & it involves hope. Happiness is in your stature, your outlook and your ability to receive.” There’s been so much transition in this season . It seems like since August there’s been…

HAPPY People are Healthy People

Just sharing on how Happy People Are Healthy People! #NthabiHappy  Happy people  do healthy  activities.  Happy  people  care about  who they call “friends”. They make  good choices  about who they spend their time with , and if those people are not  encouraging or   uplifting, they detach.  Happy  people  enjoy  good company of  those who pour  goodness…

Getting Old? …Or Growing?

So it’s only ten days away… yeah. The closer my days get to being fifty, the less celebrated I feel. Yeah. I know I should be elated, but I feel. As if my entire “Life ” is shifting. Hey Transition!!👋🏾👋🏾 And it is there’s a lot of transition going on. Unexpected transition. As if my…

  8. Oh Jesus…50!! #50DaysToFifty

Yeah so when I was a little girl I really thought fifty was a big deal. I thought 50 year olds were old. When my mom turned fifty, I remember asking her questions like: “So how does it feel?” And she’d say: “Oh, it doesn’t feel much different than a year ago.” I could never…

Steadfast Faith.

Once upon a time I went to South Africa.  I never I swear believed such a  dream was possible. Sometime it still feels like a dream. But i did go! May 14, 2003. South Africa was actually a dream come true. Its the first time I realized I could hold God to His word, and…

My Natural Hair Story/Journey

If you’d ask what’s the one thing that helps me to feel alive…its my hair.  I a absoooooolutely  love  having   locs that are free …MOST of the time, and  it  feels  good to   just have natural  hair that GOD made… and  see how the journey  helps me to be free  with the  growth…

I Am Enough Because I BELONG.

Friends. How many of us have them! ( I used to love that song the rapper sings and I used to love it so much I think because I actually loved having friends. ) Listen to the beat here I used to listen to in high school and tell me what you think. To be…

6. #50DaysToFifty: Joy At 50. Do Your Hearts Work.

Ava Duvernay inspires me. As I get older and wiser, I look to women like her, to inspire me. Strong, Powerful Black Woman, who doesn’t forget the skin she’s in.  That has brought to light (on film) what the discrepancies are that exist between Blacks and Whites (in the Netflix movie 13th); and even giving…