So… after a very hard week last week, and more contemplation on just what it takes to remain in a positive state of mind and be: #NthabiHappy , I have found that it takes effort and a soul- searching and it helps to also be aware of your state of being and how you can manage to shift it; even noticing at times when it’s okay to NOT shift it, and to “just be.”
One of my girlfriends asked me today in the midst of my coping with grief – ‘how I was managing’, and I literally didn’t have words. I told her that I was just trying to be “present” with my grief because at the moment that’s all I knew how to do.
(As I look back and think about that answer, I realized that was great for an answer, because I had to reach for that one.)
Sometimes when you aren’t sure “how to be”; you have to just focusing on BEING. And then feel what you must, in the at moment, even if it’s the most saddest, painful and unspoken fear you’ve ever had. Then call a friend, get some professional help if it surfaces too often or is too heavy for you; or perhaps get a mentor to guide you through it or help with your perspective; and don’t walk it ALONE.
This “processing” of myself and my pain, I literally decide to ’embrace’ and ‘move through it’, in order to become a better me. And that’s quite alright.
As I therapist, I’ve learned that moving through your pain with someone who understands and makes you feel totally and absolutely validated in that pain, can actually help you to move past the most painful part of it.
But it still takes some time.
Being #NthabiHappy today, means just allowing myself to be authentically me. Feeling the good, feeling the not so good, yet determining to still be happy, despite myself and my emotions. When we learn to embrace emotions instead of run from them, we’ll find that life can be a rewarding presence and those emotions can transform into Pure Joy.